The past; how it affects relationships.
Have you ever imagined knowing someone's deepest secret ,what it could be, how bad and rotten it is, what manner of unimaginable things they must have done?
A lot of thought just keeps going through the mind.
There will always come that time in every relationship when partners get heart-talking and begin to open up to one another and possibly reveal some ugly truths about their past. This is a very crucial point in every relationship, a point where each party is ready to blot, come out on the open, reveal what's necessary so as to see if the future can be a reality. This decision however has some certain effect especially if it's the revealing is from single party and there is little close to nothing to say as pertaining the other.
Trust is a very vital virtue in every relationship and if someone is not mentally and psychologically matured enough, problems are bound to sprout out in the nearest future as a party might take advantage of what is known (the secret) of the other.
A relationship that lacks trust is already default and bound to break from the onset. Saying the truth regularly is a way of building the relationship. The ability to be able to talk and reveal is more than enough assurance that one is willing to go all the way with you and at a side genuinely loves you.
Everyone has a past, big or small, fair or worse, past is past but some past has a way of rearing it's ugly face in the now.
Past experiences may and may not end a relationship, it all depends on the partners involved.
Hearing each other out is vital. After the discussion, try to be truthful, if you can continue with the relationship after discovering whatever it is, please do; and if you can't, be sincere and give valid reasons why. It takes emerse courage to say these things.
The past; the future, I believe it should be what it is, past(backward) and future(forward). The now is basically yours. You decide which affects which. The past affecting now or the now affecting the future. It's your choice.
Procrastinating on whether to talk or not isn't good for the relationship, the earlier the better. Some secrets said on time is better than the once kept for ages. A popular Yoruba adage says "iro to ba lo fun ogun Odun, ojo kan la n mo otito re" meaning a lie kept for twenty years will eventually be known one day. Same is applicable for letting out your past to your partner, so as to let go of what's gone and focus on what's coming.
However ,be sure to study and observe how matured your partner is. There is nothing bad in telling but be sure the person (your partner) is grown up enough to hear this and that you've gotten to a meaningful point in the relationship.
Liberate yourself.
Have you ever imagined knowing someone's deepest secret ,what it could be, how bad and rotten it is, what manner of unimaginable things they must have done?
A lot of thought just keeps going through the mind.
There will always come that time in every relationship when partners get heart-talking and begin to open up to one another and possibly reveal some ugly truths about their past. This is a very crucial point in every relationship, a point where each party is ready to blot, come out on the open, reveal what's necessary so as to see if the future can be a reality. This decision however has some certain effect especially if it's the revealing is from single party and there is little close to nothing to say as pertaining the other.
Trust is a very vital virtue in every relationship and if someone is not mentally and psychologically matured enough, problems are bound to sprout out in the nearest future as a party might take advantage of what is known (the secret) of the other.
A relationship that lacks trust is already default and bound to break from the onset. Saying the truth regularly is a way of building the relationship. The ability to be able to talk and reveal is more than enough assurance that one is willing to go all the way with you and at a side genuinely loves you.
Everyone has a past, big or small, fair or worse, past is past but some past has a way of rearing it's ugly face in the now.
Past experiences may and may not end a relationship, it all depends on the partners involved.
Hearing each other out is vital. After the discussion, try to be truthful, if you can continue with the relationship after discovering whatever it is, please do; and if you can't, be sincere and give valid reasons why. It takes emerse courage to say these things.
The past; the future, I believe it should be what it is, past(backward) and future(forward). The now is basically yours. You decide which affects which. The past affecting now or the now affecting the future. It's your choice.
Procrastinating on whether to talk or not isn't good for the relationship, the earlier the better. Some secrets said on time is better than the once kept for ages. A popular Yoruba adage says "iro to ba lo fun ogun Odun, ojo kan la n mo otito re" meaning a lie kept for twenty years will eventually be known one day. Same is applicable for letting out your past to your partner, so as to let go of what's gone and focus on what's coming.
However ,be sure to study and observe how matured your partner is. There is nothing bad in telling but be sure the person (your partner) is grown up enough to hear this and that you've gotten to a meaningful point in the relationship.
Liberate yourself.
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