So I got talking with mum and I was shocked about the perception she has about my love life. I was shocked at a point, disappointed at the other. I felt it finally dawned on her that her little baby boy was gradually becoming a man and needs to get actively engaged in this relationship hoogahooga. She wants to see her grand children from my end some day.
At that moment, I realized that though some parents may pose as to be uninterested , but at a point, they want to know how much you've learnt over the years when they pretended not to be watching.
Youths must know that parents as we call them were once youths themselves; They experienced chasing and being chased; They experienced the play hard and being hard to get; they experienced the outings, the wooing, the serinat'ng , and everything used to spice up the dating atmosphere.
They feel it is their responsibility to guide you and at the same, they feel you need a level of freedom to express yourself and most importantly, learn.
Mama thought her baby boy wasn't man enough and there I was smirking at one side. The truth of the whole thing is, there are some things that are expected of you to learn on your own without their involvement (excluding anything involving the canal knowledge) . Don't be amazed when it gets to that point in your life and they begin to ask about who you've been with and who you are presently seeing. It's their way of telling you you aren't getting any younger and that some years from now, they'll like to see your future partner.
I once had a friend whose parent will continually nag and preach to her against having a relationship . She was a grown up. It got to a point I was wondering if her father would eventually marry her as a second wife. She told me she was shocked to death the day her mother asked her who she was seeing. Sometimes this overprotection only comes as facade -pseudo .
Truth be said,some parents haven't really gotten the right strategy as concerning this aspect. But we should be sure to learn the right values and follow the right principles. Understand what they are protecting us from and learn the true essence. Parents understand the fact that they should stand as a guide to their children. They have gone through all these stages and they pretty much have a vast idea and understanding on whatever it is that is going on in our life, relationship wise.
While most parent may pose as strict, others try to be less military, so as to create an atmosphere where children can feel free to talk extensively to their parents who has all the knowledge and has their best interest in mind, other than a set of friends with little or no experience whatsoever.
As some youths will engage in dating at a very early stage as we have it today, some take a while to begin. Whichever way it is, gather up what's necessary on time. So you end up not blaming it totally on them (parent) when you also have a part to take in the blame . In the process of learning and gathering experience for the bigger picture (starting a family) ,youths should always seek elderly 'sincere' opinions and advise.
Mild or strict, military or civilian ,whichever means they (parent) choose to apply, know it at the back of your mind that they love you just as much as you do and their strategy is just there way of guiding you. Learn what's needed to be learnt in a relationship , dating and moral wise. Make them proud and help them to help you groom yourself into a better husband or wife in future.
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