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The past; how it affects relationships . Have you ever imagined knowing someone's deepest secret ,what it could be, how bad and rotten it is, what manner of unimaginable things they must have done? A lot of thought just keeps going through the mind. There will always come that time in every relationship when partners get heart-talking and begin to open up to one another and possibly reveal some ugly truths about their past. This is a very crucial point in every relationship, a point where each party is ready to blot, come out on the open, reveal what's necessary so as to see if the future can be a reality. This decision however has some certain effect especially if it's the revealing is from single party and there is little close to nothing to say as pertaining the other. Trust is a very vital virtue in every relationship and if someone is not mentally and psychologically matured enough, problems are bound to sprout out in the nearest future as a party might take adv...

THERE IS FIRE ON THE MOUNTAIN and no one is running. Young people need to wake up FAST! When I say young, I’m talking about everyone from 15 to 25, and even younger. When people say that you’re doing too much or you’re too serious for your age, cut them off, break up with them. You don’t need that poison. Just recently, someone from the United Nations contacted me asking if I’d be interested in being nominated for an award for young achievers. I said yes of course. Then they asked my age, saying I had to be 30 and under. DAMN IT! I’d just turned 31. E pain me oh. I nor go lie. Young people, trust me when I say this. You’ll all have sense one day. One day you’ll be mature and ‘woke’ enough to understand and see through the grand deception behind BB Naija. One day you’ll desire to truly live for yourself and leave your imprints on the sands of time, rather than through celebrity gossip. One day, you're going to realize that you want more out of life. One da...

Dating Your Friend's Girlfriend/Boyfriend . This is a matter that comes up every now and then and be rest assured it comes with different blends and flavors as people tend to have different opinion about the topic. While some see it as complete nonsense, others seem not to have much of a problem with it. Before embarking on this article, I'd taken my time to ask questions as pertaining the topic from friends and they all had something different to say depending on what angle. From the replies I knew it would be very difficult writing something that will cover every aspect and still come to a general and accepted conclusion. I will try to as brief as possible. It's absolutely natural when you admire your bestie's cute boyfriend or when you admire your bestie's girl but it's absolutely wrong when you allow the admiration become a force which will not just end your friendship but possibly destroy you as a person. Some are of the opinion that peradventure th...

Stay Different - Be Younique There are thousands of scenarios where you find yourself in this awkward circle where by chance you happen to feel uncomfortable just because you feel that you don't fit in. You tend to feel this bridge : a vacuum; an emptiness ,a lack of connection. The chemistry seem to have gone missing. It's quite appalling the toll this has taken on so many people. They have this constant feeling that there seem to be something wrong with them when in turn, they are perfectly alright.  People strife to connect, they strife to be among, they strife to relate and by the moment things begin to go sour, they feel odd, and this goes a long way in affecting their self-esteem  . I keep telling people, it is absolutely normal and a wonderful thing to be different. In a clique of three, there are two who are the closest ;in a clique of four, it's either two aside closest friends or one odd one. It's absolutely normal. Standing out from the crowd makes y...

Parents Reaction To Dating So I got talking with mum and I was shocked about the perception she has about my love life. I was shocked at a point, disappointed at the other. I felt it finally dawned on her that her little baby boy was gradually becoming a man and needs to get actively engaged in this relationship hoogahooga. She wants to see her grand children from my end some day. At that moment, I realized that though some parents may pose as to be uninterested , but at a point, they want to know how much you've learnt over the years when they pretended not to be watching. Youths must know that parents as we call them were once youths themselves; They experienced chasing and being chased; They experienced the play hard and being hard to get; they experienced the outings, the wooing, the serinat'ng , and everything used to spice up the dating atmosphere. They feel it is their responsibility to guide you and at the same, they feel you need a level of freedom to express ...