Dating Your Friend's Girlfriend/Boyfriend.
This is a matter that comes up every now and then and be rest assured it comes with different blends and flavors as people tend to have different opinion about the topic. While some see it as complete nonsense, others seem not to have much of a problem with it.
Before embarking on this article, I'd taken my time to ask questions as pertaining the topic from friends and they all had something different to say depending on what angle. From the replies I knew it would be very difficult writing something that will cover every aspect and still come to a general and accepted conclusion.
I will try to as brief as possible. It's absolutely natural when you admire your bestie's cute boyfriend or when you admire your bestie's girl but it's absolutely wrong when you allow the admiration become a force which will not just end your friendship but possibly destroy you as a person. Some are of the opinion that peradventure their friends doesn't treat them (their partner) well and they like them, it is in their place to do the needful. Let's face it, there is a slim chance you will ever know this person if your bestfriend didn't do the proper intro.
Relationships don't just sprout out of the invisible, it has gone through processes, processes of observing each other, spending time, calls, conversations, emotional and psychological build up before it gets to that point where they decided they wanted to be together . These things begins from the very scratch.
There are cases where this has happened and it eventually worked out. Some see it as "grabbing the opportunity " but I tend to ask what happened to the so-called "best friend" . what's bad is bad, there is no other name. Irrespective of how bad their relationship might be going, as their bestie, it's not in your place to snatch their partners.
If a round tyre doesn't fit into a square peg, you are not in the position to be the round peg. Best friends remains best friends, the moment you deviate, you seize to be one. Karma has a way feeding everyone with the appropriate portion. It goes around ,it's that simple.
Just thinking aloud!
This is a matter that comes up every now and then and be rest assured it comes with different blends and flavors as people tend to have different opinion about the topic. While some see it as complete nonsense, others seem not to have much of a problem with it.
Before embarking on this article, I'd taken my time to ask questions as pertaining the topic from friends and they all had something different to say depending on what angle. From the replies I knew it would be very difficult writing something that will cover every aspect and still come to a general and accepted conclusion.
I will try to as brief as possible. It's absolutely natural when you admire your bestie's cute boyfriend or when you admire your bestie's girl but it's absolutely wrong when you allow the admiration become a force which will not just end your friendship but possibly destroy you as a person. Some are of the opinion that peradventure their friends doesn't treat them (their partner) well and they like them, it is in their place to do the needful. Let's face it, there is a slim chance you will ever know this person if your bestfriend didn't do the proper intro.
Relationships don't just sprout out of the invisible, it has gone through processes, processes of observing each other, spending time, calls, conversations, emotional and psychological build up before it gets to that point where they decided they wanted to be together . These things begins from the very scratch.
There are cases where this has happened and it eventually worked out. Some see it as "grabbing the opportunity " but I tend to ask what happened to the so-called "best friend" . what's bad is bad, there is no other name. Irrespective of how bad their relationship might be going, as their bestie, it's not in your place to snatch their partners.
If a round tyre doesn't fit into a square peg, you are not in the position to be the round peg. Best friends remains best friends, the moment you deviate, you seize to be one. Karma has a way feeding everyone with the appropriate portion. It goes around ,it's that simple.
Just thinking aloud!
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