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Three Major Reasons why Most Relationships Break
Life has it stages and one very important stage in life is that moment when you are grown up enough to find love. That stage where you are emotionally and psychologically ready to get involved in the relationship rollercoaster.
However it has been observed that some start at a very early stage in life, while for others, it takes a while longer.
Many who have gathered experience from one relationship to the other will agree that it can be difficult to find someone with whom you perfectly match.
Everyone has a fantasy of this perfect relationship where both parties involved are happy ever after. However, as a result of experience coupled with close observation and scrutiny of other relationships,some facts has been gathered and we have come to the conclusion that this fantasies don't last for seconds in the real world .
Quite a number of reasons can be outlined on why most relationships crash, reasons starting a wrong foundation, the wrong person, wrong focus, wrong purpose, lack of trust, insecurity, overbearing attitude among so many.
Today, I will be emphasizing on three, which are:
--The wrong Foundation
--The wrong person
--Lack trust /Insecurity
* The wrong Foundation : Ever sat down and just thought to yourself why a relationship will last for just a few weeks and others which has lasted for years end up breaking ? Your guess is as good as mine - Wrong foundation. Foundation in this context can be said to be the platform on which a communion, togetherness is built. I have observed that starting a relationship on the basis of good looks, nice oral hygiene, money, power, fluency, intelligence ,state of being religious and other unbelievable reasons have all served as basis for starting a relationship.
While all this qualities can serve as an incentive for liking someone, it shouldn't be the major reason you'll want to be with that person talkless serving as a foundation on which a relationship should be built .
It's only logical you lose interest in a relationship when these incentives are out of the frame.
The genuine foundation for any relationship should be LOVE. Yes, LOVE. Once this is in place, there is a whole room for other positive qualities to come in. A room for proper communication, a room for understanding, a room for bonding, this way you both create an atmosphere for growth.
*The Wrong Person
Finding the right person is one hell of an herculean task. This being that everyone has there pseudo versions and masks put on all the time. It becomes difficult to recognise who is being real and otherwise. Most people eventually fall in love with this cool personality, understand and sweet, reliable and smart. Few weeks into the relationship, they become shadows of their past while others are grandmasters of the act.
Its no doubt that finding the person might be very tricky ; however, with a great amount of patience and close observance, one may tell which is which.
Being with the wrong person in a relationship can be likened to a damaged ship put on water to sail the big blue sea : it will sink before it even starts . At long run, you begin to discover the dark side of your partner ; they become a total stranger, totally different from the person you initially fell in love with.
Lack of Trust /Insecurity : Sometimes I ask myself, could it be possible to be in love without someone and still trust them, well, the answer is Yes. It's only human that we make mistakes and sometimes act irrational. We are in a age where everyone trust nobody and nobody really cares. However, it will be bad if we fail to acknowledge the fact that trust, is a very important tool in every relationship. Lack of trust in your partner is what leads to insecurity - the act of being unsecured . The fear of being cheated on, the fear of betrayal, etc.
All these put together leads to assumptions, assumptions which causes unrest and constant panicking. It's only logical that such a relationship will hardly last.
So what can we do?
Be satisfied that you are truly in love.
Find out if the person is the right one for you. Truly, opposite to attract but are the true opposite that should attract or they simply oppositions.
Lastly, create an atmosphere where you and your partner can communicate, discuss pertinent issues as pertaining the relationship, ask questions on things that aren't clear, this way you you both build a level confidence in each other.
Like it or not, this an aspect of everyone's life that should be taken with all seriousness. Engage on pend it, it's a compulsory course.
*DynamiC*😁
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Three Major Reasons why Most Relationships Break
Life has it stages and one very important stage in life is that moment when you are grown up enough to find love. That stage where you are emotionally and psychologically ready to get involved in the relationship rollercoaster.
However it has been observed that some start at a very early stage in life, while for others, it takes a while longer.
Many who have gathered experience from one relationship to the other will agree that it can be difficult to find someone with whom you perfectly match.
Everyone has a fantasy of this perfect relationship where both parties involved are happy ever after. However, as a result of experience coupled with close observation and scrutiny of other relationships,some facts has been gathered and we have come to the conclusion that this fantasies don't last for seconds in the real world .
Quite a number of reasons can be outlined on why most relationships crash, reasons starting a wrong foundation, the wrong person, wrong focus, wrong purpose, lack of trust, insecurity, overbearing attitude among so many.
Today, I will be emphasizing on three, which are:
--The wrong Foundation
--The wrong person
--Lack trust /Insecurity
* The wrong Foundation : Ever sat down and just thought to yourself why a relationship will last for just a few weeks and others which has lasted for years end up breaking ? Your guess is as good as mine - Wrong foundation. Foundation in this context can be said to be the platform on which a communion, togetherness is built. I have observed that starting a relationship on the basis of good looks, nice oral hygiene, money, power, fluency, intelligence ,state of being religious and other unbelievable reasons have all served as basis for starting a relationship.
While all this qualities can serve as an incentive for liking someone, it shouldn't be the major reason you'll want to be with that person talkless serving as a foundation on which a relationship should be built .
It's only logical you lose interest in a relationship when these incentives are out of the frame.
The genuine foundation for any relationship should be LOVE. Yes, LOVE. Once this is in place, there is a whole room for other positive qualities to come in. A room for proper communication, a room for understanding, a room for bonding, this way you both create an atmosphere for growth.
*The Wrong Person
Finding the right person is one hell of an herculean task. This being that everyone has there pseudo versions and masks put on all the time. It becomes difficult to recognise who is being real and otherwise. Most people eventually fall in love with this cool personality, understand and sweet, reliable and smart. Few weeks into the relationship, they become shadows of their past while others are grandmasters of the act.
Its no doubt that finding the person might be very tricky ; however, with a great amount of patience and close observance, one may tell which is which.
Being with the wrong person in a relationship can be likened to a damaged ship put on water to sail the big blue sea : it will sink before it even starts . At long run, you begin to discover the dark side of your partner ; they become a total stranger, totally different from the person you initially fell in love with.
Lack of Trust /Insecurity : Sometimes I ask myself, could it be possible to be in love without someone and still trust them, well, the answer is Yes. It's only human that we make mistakes and sometimes act irrational. We are in a age where everyone trust nobody and nobody really cares. However, it will be bad if we fail to acknowledge the fact that trust, is a very important tool in every relationship. Lack of trust in your partner is what leads to insecurity - the act of being unsecured . The fear of being cheated on, the fear of betrayal, etc.
All these put together leads to assumptions, assumptions which causes unrest and constant panicking. It's only logical that such a relationship will hardly last.
So what can we do?
Be satisfied that you are truly in love.
Find out if the person is the right one for you. Truly, opposite to attract but are the true opposite that should attract or they simply oppositions.
Lastly, create an atmosphere where you and your partner can communicate, discuss pertinent issues as pertaining the relationship, ask questions on things that aren't clear, this way you you both build a level confidence in each other.
Like it or not, this an aspect of everyone's life that should be taken with all seriousness. Engage on pend it, it's a compulsory course.
*DynamiC*😁
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