Dating : perspective from both sides (male & female)
Over the years I have observed most relationships, dating in particular, especially on the ones grounded in true
love, and I have discovered that the perspective of "what the future holds" differ on both sides .
The male and the female version: So why the male may be a bit uncertain even despite the authenticity of what he feels, a female on the other hand has everything planned out on a perfect future for not just her, but the both of them .
The society demands that a man should be in charge and by being in charge, he should be able to fend not just for his wife but, his children and extended family as well, his and that of his wife's. A man, knowing the weight of the responsibility which lies on his shoulder is constrained within the hand of time. He feels he needs to be financially and psychological capable to carry out these roles within a limited time frame. This however prolongs his readiness .
A woman on the other has her future planned out. if not by herself, then by her mother, elder sisters, aunt and the list is without end. Just by the statement : "Mummy, I have a boyfriend" ,she wants to know his surname, state of origin, height and complexion plus even his genotype, lol.
In this jet age, the women gets married faster and men, a bit longer. The more reason why there is always a massive age difference between a man and his wife in many cases.
Understanding the different perspective shared by both parties, one will then ask "is this the reason why most relationships break? " ,why this may be part of the reasons, a lot of people are still yet to get the entire conception behind dating.
What is Dating? According to the dictionary, dating is a 'form' of courtship between two individuals with the aim of accessing the other's suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship . It's quite obvious that most people confuse dating to courtship, why the latter leads to marriage, the former leads to a mutual understanding that they are compatible. Dating is a stage on its own,and it has to be passed . Though dating is something that eventually continues even after you have become partners, but at that level, the individuals involved must have come to a conclusion that they are compatible, they know their good and bad and they feel they're okay with it.
It's pertinent that both individuals go through the dating stage properly, so both perspectives on where the relationship is going will be ironed out sooner. That way the problem of opinion clash is removed. It saves you from fully falling in love and one person backing out.. It's not just enough to know that you are both compatible ,it goes as far as knowing how far you both want the relationship to go.
In summary, so before you jump on that person who you are so in love with and give them "your all" ,take your time go through the right process. The heart has its mind, navigate it with your head.
*Dynamic
Over the years I have observed most relationships, dating in particular, especially on the ones grounded in true
The male and the female version: So why the male may be a bit uncertain even despite the authenticity of what he feels, a female on the other hand has everything planned out on a perfect future for not just her, but the both of them .
The society demands that a man should be in charge and by being in charge, he should be able to fend not just for his wife but, his children and extended family as well, his and that of his wife's. A man, knowing the weight of the responsibility which lies on his shoulder is constrained within the hand of time. He feels he needs to be financially and psychological capable to carry out these roles within a limited time frame. This however prolongs his readiness .
A woman on the other has her future planned out. if not by herself, then by her mother, elder sisters, aunt and the list is without end. Just by the statement : "Mummy, I have a boyfriend" ,she wants to know his surname, state of origin, height and complexion plus even his genotype, lol.
In this jet age, the women gets married faster and men, a bit longer. The more reason why there is always a massive age difference between a man and his wife in many cases.
Understanding the different perspective shared by both parties, one will then ask "is this the reason why most relationships break? " ,why this may be part of the reasons, a lot of people are still yet to get the entire conception behind dating.
What is Dating? According to the dictionary, dating is a 'form' of courtship between two individuals with the aim of accessing the other's suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship . It's quite obvious that most people confuse dating to courtship, why the latter leads to marriage, the former leads to a mutual understanding that they are compatible. Dating is a stage on its own,and it has to be passed . Though dating is something that eventually continues even after you have become partners, but at that level, the individuals involved must have come to a conclusion that they are compatible, they know their good and bad and they feel they're okay with it.
It's pertinent that both individuals go through the dating stage properly, so both perspectives on where the relationship is going will be ironed out sooner. That way the problem of opinion clash is removed. It saves you from fully falling in love and one person backing out.. It's not just enough to know that you are both compatible ,it goes as far as knowing how far you both want the relationship to go.
In summary, so before you jump on that person who you are so in love with and give them "your all" ,take your time go through the right process. The heart has its mind, navigate it with your head.
*Dynamic
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